I think this is a result of our present lifestyles. High school, university, job, career, employment abroad, and again career. We try to accomplish as many goals as possible in a short time. Family Planning comes much later on in life today. If it takes a while to become pregnant, couples get nervous and try to find a reason why it takes more time than expected. This then creates worry and pressure which is not helpful at all. Sometimes it is better to give yourself a little bit more time, enjoy being together with your partner without stress.
Yes, sure, mentally and physically. It’s important to talk with your partner through a few topics. How much time do you need for your hobbies-with your friends, without your partner, how much as a couple? Many women had their own incomes before birth. Even if it is normal to share one bank account, how will it be if you need to buy 3 pairs of shoes just because you don’t feel well? Can your partner understand this? Personal income is related to self-confidence. Sadly in our lifestyle being a mother does not carry the same value as a career woman. Being with a child means 24 hours/ 7 days a week, being on call- which might be quite stressful the first 3 months. Can my partner support me during this time when he is back to work? How much support do I expect from him and is this practical for him? I think it is important to talk about this- how the baby will change the relationship between a couple. This is one of the main topics in the birth course I have.
First have a medical check up: blood samples, health status and vaccination status – same for your partner. Second, talk to a nutritionist for a dietary check up. This prepares the body with all the important nutrients and can help to reduce morning sickness in the pregnancy.